What is your biggest fear?
Are you afraid of the dark? Afraid of heights? Spiders? Failure? The unknown? Are you afraid of trying something and actually being successful?
Sometimes that last one is even scarier than all of the others. Sometimes failing is easy because then you have an out…you can just try something else. When you succeed you are responsible to maintain. You have proven yourself, and everyone watching, wrong and have shown that you are able to commit, execute, and win.
When I started Keto and began noticeably losing weight, many people supported me. They told me that I was always so confident before the weight loss and that confidence was just radiating on a new level now.
In actuality, I understood that all of my confidence wasn’t genuine or positive. I understood the sometimes my confidence was at the expense of others. I understood that it took a lot of energy to conjure up that confidence before I walked out the door via hair, clothes, makeup, etc. because in my mind, I was walking around uncomfortable, in fear, and constantly comparing my internal to everyone else’s external.
This year for my birthday, my husband and I decided to conquer one of our fears and go skydiving. We did not tell anyone about our plan because we did not want anyone else’s fears to have an impact on our decision.
In the last two years, we have both lost over 100 pounds. That is SCARY! We are learning who we are daily and embracing the beautiful changes that our new bodies and mindsets have offered.
Surely, jumping out of a plane is not scarier than becoming who you were created to be.
So, we jumped and if I thought my confidence was beaming before, now you really can’t tell me anything!
I know how it feels to be unsure if I’ll fit on a roller coaster AND how it feels not to worry if I’ll fit in the sky diving harness.
I know how it feels to have to suck in my gut to try and squeeze by a crowd at a social gathering AND how it feels to walk through stadium seats without anyone having to move to let me through.
Of course I still have things that I don’t like about myself, not so nice thoughts about myself, unsure feelings about what I have to offer. We all do. But now, I can add skydiving to my list of wins. Heights? What heights? If I can physically go higher, what is stopping me from elevating mentally?
What fear do you need to conquer?
I am not telling everyone to go jump out of a plane. (Unless you want to…then I say, go for it! It is an amazing experience!) But I do want you to think about your biggest fear. What is blocking you from feeling fearless? What is stopping you from being your best self?
Surely bread, cake, and soda do not have that much power. In actuality, foods and sweets are just a tool used to cover for the actual fears and conflicts that we are experiencing. Dig deep. Be vulnerable and transparent with yourself. What are you surrendering your power to? Release that power and reclaim your authority over your life and your decisions.
When you have made up your mind to do something and then you commit and see yourself do it!! To take the limits off of what you are able to do!! There is no better feeling.
We do not always know what the end will look like, but I promise you, that if you bet on yourself and jump into your fear instead of away from it, you will land on your feet and you will absolutely LOVE the person who you meet when you get there!
What will you Conquer today!?!?
- Take some quiet time and write down some of your fears.
- Decide which areas you can reclaim your authority. Don’t surrender your power to be great to little things that may just be suggestions.
- Set a goal to overcome one of your fears.
- Be realistic! Conquer one fear at a time. Be safe. Set time constraints. Create incentives to encourage your positive actions.
- Get comfortable with the idea of being GREAT! You already have what it takes!